Year of Seduction
Sign up for our newsletter and receive 12 months of seduction.
2010 is your year.
Sexuality loves to be explored. What turns us on is always in flux, involving the push and pull of contrasting forces – and that's what keeps things exciting. Whether you're just beginning to test the waters or have years of experimentation behind you, there is always another facet to discover, and more fun to be had.
In this monthly series, Jimmyjane guides you through a variety of ways to broaden your explorations and give every day new potential for pleasure.
Talking dirty? Get tips on introducing new ideas to your partner.
Seduce & Win. Sign up for the chance to win Jimmyjane products for your adventures.
June – Power & Finesse
Sometimes you're the epitome of the attentive lover – slowly and tenderly ministering to your partner's every desire. At other times, your approach is best described with a four-letter word. We can't be Don Juan all the time, and, really, what's wrong with that? While taking it slow can be a profound experience, giving in to raw urgency can leave you both feeling like you've been hit by a train (in the best possible way). This month, we've got several ideas to mix things up, whether you want to feel the earth move, or shake it to its core.
Assume the position. Amazingly, there are over 600 sexual positions, and those are just the ones people have bothered to write down. How you and your partner position your bodies dictates the speed, angle and depth of penetration – and it doesn't take a big change to make all the difference.
A good place to begin is by exploring the landscape of your own home. Try using a kitchen chair for the Milk and Water Embrace, a popular Kama Sutra position. The man sits in the chair, while the woman sits astride him facing away, lifting herself up and down and rocking forward and back. This puts the woman in control of the speed, depth and direction of the thrust, while leaving the man's hands free to roam. You can also try this position face-to-face on a living room chair with low armrests. The woman sits astride her man with a leg across each armrest, giving her all the control without being as athletically demanding.
Don't consider yourself finished until you explore every piece of furniture in the house – you'll never look at the ottoman the same way again.
Expand your repertoire. No matter how many moves you've mastered, there's always room for one more. Surprise your loved one by treating them to the deft precision of a new technique. If you don't yet know what your partner would like to try, now's the perfect time to ask. If you don't feel comfortable coming right out with "How do you feel about anal sex?" (for example) there are plenty of ways to be subtle. Next time you're in bed together, ask him or her whether they like this or want more of that. Then take your field research to the nearest sex-positive bookstore or to the internet. Whether you want to perfect the art of giving head or learn from odd-yet-helpfully-animated sexual positions, you'll find no shortage of instruction.
Turn it up to 10. Among the endless variety of sex accessories available, some will take you on a slow, gentle climb to orgasm, while others get straight to the point. If it's power and intensity that you and your partner are after, look for a vibrator with a large motor, or better yet, two motors. If you want to be able to control your level of stimulation and enjoy a long, leisurely ride, choose a slim, versatile vibrator that can be positioned any which way to deliver a little or a lot of stimulation.
Whether your focus is on speed or longevity, you'll want your vibrator to be easy to hold on to, no matter what position you're in or how wild things get. Bullet vibrators can be cradled in the palm of the hand, while a vibrating ring requires no hands whatsoever.
Was it good for you? Contact us with your questions, comments and requests.
Sign up for our newsletter to get it while it's hot.