Year of Seduction
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2010 is your year.
Sexuality loves to be explored. What turns us on is always in flux, involving the push and pull of contrasting forces – and that's what keeps things exciting. Whether you're just beginning to test the waters or have years of experimentation behind you, there is always another facet to discover, and more fun to be had.
In this monthly series, Jimmyjane guides you through a variety of ways to broaden your explorations and give every day new potential for pleasure.
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Spiritual & Carnal
For some, the ultimate sexual experience is primarily spiritual, as much a mingling of souls as bodies. For others, the perfect tryst is all about raw desire and physical release. Yet, these two aspects of sex overlap in ways that are surprising – and rich with possibilities for exploration.
Forging a spiritual connection can sound like a lofty (and new-age-y) ambition, one that focuses on what's in our heads and hearts, not our bodies. Yet, as any first-year yoga instructor can tell you, mind and body are inseparable. While taking your loved one on the kitchen floor when they're still sweaty from the gym may not seem spiritual at first, reveling in each other's physical, natural bodies can be a disarmingly profound and honest experience. Without the pageantry or mood lighting, sex becomes more open, letting you express your desires more directly – and know each other more deeply.
Here are a few ideas to explore on Valentine's Day, or all month long.
THE SPIRITUAL
The 15-minute hug. Don't laugh – this is heady stuff, and you may be surprised by the experience. Even the most heartfelt hugs are momentary, and we typically feel the impulse to pull away after a few seconds. Overcoming this internal stopwatch may feel odd at first, even uncomfortable, but stick with it – initial giggles tend to give way to something more profound. Sound too PG–rated? Keep in mind that you're both naked. Who knows where you could be in 20 minutes.
THE CARNAL
Take (or give) the reins. Taking full control of your partner can be a thrilling and eye-opening experience for both of you. While one partner remains passive (with or without assistance of restraints and/or a blindfold) the other steers the experience however they see fit, whether it's by giving pleasure or taking it. Defining clear roles quiets the typical “blur” of hands, lips and limbs, giving you both a newfound awareness of each other's bodies – how they move, feel and respond. Next time through, it's time to switch roles.
THE FUSION
Shed some light. Nothing grounds us in the moment and awakens the senses like flipping on the lights. Having sex in revealing glow of an incandescent lamp may seem daunting at first, especially for those of us who are a bit self conscious (and aren't we all?). Yet, such physical exposure rewards with greater emotional honesty, encouraging more eye contact and a keen awareness of what your bodies are doing. You may also find a lot to love in all the visual stimulation.
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