TV’s The Doctors discuss how to get over the physical effects of a break up.
Beyond the Facebook stalking and puffy post-cry eyes, break-ups can have lasting effects,such as heartache, insomnia and the inability to orgasm. Watch this clip to see what sexologist Rachel Ross, M.D. recommends to treat these ailments. Hint: it may involve a Jimmyjane vibrator (or two).
As The Doctors explain, love is like an addiction. Like ending a drug addiction, breaking up with someone can lead to serious withdrawal symptoms. Here are five things to you do to combat these physiological effects –
1. Cut The Social Stalking. Break-ups can lead to a profound sense of loss. Seeing an image of your lost lover can activate the areas of your brain associated with physical pain. Unfriend your ex on Facebook. Don’t follow their Twitter feed or Instagram. Help yourself move on with a clean break.
2. Get Over Orgasm Mental Block. Many women require an emotional connection to reach orgasm. If you’re having a hard time achieving climax post break-up, the first thing to do is find it yourself. This is where a vibrator can be very helpful. Rachel Ross recommends FORM 2 or HELLO TOUCH to find what turns you on, allowing you to direct your next partner.
3. Work out. When in a relationship, your dopamine reward center gets used to positive reinforcement, causing feelings of pleasure. You may turn to drugs, alcohol or other unhelpful substances to fill the void left by a break up. Exercise can help your brain get the same endorphins and adrenaline rush as a new relationship. (Plus it beats sitting at home eating chocolate and drinking wine).
4. Put yourself first. Emotional stress takes a big toll on your body, causing it to release high levels of adrenaline and cortisol (the stress hormone) to deal with the impact. These hormones can slow the immune system. There are lots of activities that are more fun when single – hang with your friends, focus on your career, or spend time improving your own mental and physical health to make your next relationship even better.
5. Have faith that time heals all. The frontal cortex in your brain actually changes during the grieving process. With the passage of time, your brain returns to its regular activity.