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Starting the Conversation

Starting the Conversation

How should I start the conversation?

If you're uncertain how to bring up the subject of vibrators, not to worry. Given that in the US, 52.5% of women and 44% of men between the ages of 18 & 60 have used a vibrator, chances very good that your partner has either tried or considered trying a vibrator. This means that while it may be a new subject for you to discuss together, it's not as foreign a concept as you might at first expect.

Follow the suggestion that best fits your comfort and experience level with your partner.

Ease into it.
If you want to test the waters first, try introducing other products and experiences with lower stakes into the relationship, and begin to open up the possibility of greater exploration. For many, massage is an easy way to connect. Most of our massage products have sexual uses as well, making them a great lead-in. You can even just email a link to your partner and say, "I've heard great things about these natural massage oil candles. Can I give you a massage?" You might just get an email back that says, "Sure, and how about one of these vibrators!"

Point to Oprah.
Vibrators now appear regularly in mainstream press, providing ample opportunities to simply open with, "guess what I read about today?" We've even seen media icons from Oprah and Barbara Walters to Kate Moss and Mary-Louise Parker discussing vibrators, and news pieces about vibrators appear everywhere from Cosmopolitan (obviously) to the New York Times and from Fox News to Forbes.

Stumble across one.
Vibrators are everywhere, so there are more opportunities than ever before to bump into one and comment. The next time you're in your local supermarket, CVS, Walgreens, Rite Aid, Target, etc., take a look next to the condoms and you'll likely find a single use version of a Vibrating Ring – and perhaps more. Mention it to your partner, and profess your curiosity about the ring, and/or vibrators in general.

Blame it on the vernal equinox.
If you're feeling fairly confident, you can give a vibrator as a gift, using a special occasion to help explain your special thoughtfulness. Valentine's Day is an obvious opportunity, but other holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and even sunny Tuesday afternoons are all good occasions to give a vibrator.