Communicating an Interest in a Vibrator

Communicating an Interest in a Vibrator

How can I help my partner understand my interest in trying a vibrator?

Communicate.
The single best way to expand and improve your sex life is always to communicate with your partner. This is particularly true when trying something new. Even if you think your partner understands intuitively, explain why you're interested so that your partner isn't left wondering. Uncertainty and worry love to fill in wherever lack of communication leaves an opening. Hearing your feelings directly is worth a thousand intuitions.

Be open.
Share why you're interested. If it's because the idea turns you on, say so. If it's because you think your partner will enjoy it, and his or her enjoyment is very important to you – say that. If you feel it's important to "spice things up" – well, there's a conversation that's definitely worth having. Once you are candid about your feelings, your partner will be much more inclined to express his or her own.

Pay attention.
Be sensitive to your partner's comfort level. Going a little bit outside our comfort zone can be exciting, but going too far is simply uncomfortable. If you sense hesitation or concern, ask about it, and adjust your plan accordingly.