Orgasms come in many shapes and sizes. It's not always easy to find your orgasm, but once you do, there's an array of flavors to discover. Female orgasms come in numerous forms and, if you're lucky, can even arrive in multiples. Physiologically and emotionally, an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm – a muscular contraction partnered with a rush of pleasure-inducing hormones. That said, sex educator and author Betty Dodson describes at least nine different kinds of orgasms in her book, Orgasms for Two. These include pressure orgasms, tension orgasms, relaxation orgasms, fantasy orgasms and more. Read more details in our friend Cory Silverberg's sexuality site on About.com. Below we'll focus on the most common types – clitoral, G-spot, and blended.
Internal vs. External Most women require external, or clitoral, stimulation to achieve an orgasm. With thousands of nerve endings, the clitoris is said by many sexperts and sexologists to be the female pleasure center. However, there is a minority out there (less than a quarter of all women) who can climax through internal stimulation alone – that is, through intercourse or other types of penetration.
Some women experience simultaneous internal and external orgasms. This is called a combination or blended orgasm and requires clitoral and vaginal or G-spot stimulation at the same time. You can begin by using your fingers or an external vibrator such as FORM 3 for clitoral stimulation during intercourse. "Twice As Nice" vibrators, such as the ICONIC RABBIT, are another great way to experiment with this. Alternatively, you can make your man (or a vibrator designed for internal stimulation) "Twice As Nice" by adding an ICONIC RING for clitoral stimulation.
Single vs. Multiple Single orgasms can last anywhere from a few seconds to a minute. Unlike most men, who require a refractory period of anywhere from minutes to hours to recover between orgasms, some women can have multiple orgasms with little or no pause in between.
Multiple orgasms come in two forms – sequential and serial. Sequential orgasms are orgasms that occur after one another with a few minutes in between. Additional stimulation is often required to get from one to the next, but there is no limit to how many you might have during one encounter. There's no such thing as too many orgasms, that is, as long as you're still able to walk afterwards. Serial orgasms are one orgasm experienced immediately after the next and the next and the next. This is a wild ride for those who can actually achieve it (which is not many).
Real vs. Fake Studies indicate that as many as 80% of women have faked an orgasm at one time or another.(3) There are many reasons – from wanting to boost our partners' self esteem, to feeling bad about being unable to achieve an orgasm, to just being too tired and wanting to call it a night. You've probably heard it before, but it's worth repeating – nobody wins when you fake it.
Faking it sends the wrong message. One major problem with faking an orgasm is that it communicates to your partner that he or she is doing something right, when really, they may be completely off. Clear, honest communication is the key to a healthy, happy sex life, and faking it only hinders that openness