For best results, get to know your equipment. It's time to learn about your body. Yes, you've lived with it for years, but there's always more to discover. Even familiar friends can be full of surprises.
The Erogenous Zones These come in three flavors – primary (most sensitive), secondary (less sensitive) and tertiary (least sensitive). Stimulating the secondary erogenous zones is a great way to build excitement. Focusing on the neck, ears, feet, hands, and breasts can put you in the mood so that once you get to the primary zones, you're already hot and bothered.
Though a great foot massage might get you pretty close, stimulation of the primary erogenous zones is the most likely way to reach an orgasm. Primary zones include lips, nipples, and genitals. Stroke, rub, and lavish attention on these areas. Blossom Organics Arousal Gel and Good Clean Love Lubricant can help keep all your parts sensitive and slippery.
The specifics. Now that you have the basics, let's focus on a few key areas that can lead you directly to the golden orgasm at the end of your pleasure-bow. It can feel good to caress pretty much any part of the vulva (the external female genitals, including the labia majora, labia minora, clitoris, etc.) or the vagina (the actual tunnel that leads to the cervix and uterus). However, your elusive orgasm is most likely hiding in one of these specific spots –
Your Clitoris – The Nexus of Good Things If you need help locating your clitoris, look at the region just above your vaginal opening. See that little bud at the top of your inner labia? The one that sends a shiver through your body when you touch it? Yep, that's it. It actually extends into your body, but that little button on the outside is the secret to many a female orgasm. The tip of the clitoris contains approximately 8,000 nerve endings, almost twice that of the tip of the penis (score 1 for the ladies). As a result, direct clitoral stimulation can be pretty intense, so many women prefer stimulation of the hood or the surrounding area. If want to experiment with clitoral stimulation, try an external vibrator like FORM 2 or FORM 3.
Your G-spot – How to Find It and What to Try Once You Do - See more at: Some women find G-spot stimulation to be extremely pleasurable and even orgasm inducing. The G-spot, named for German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg, is an area of soft, spongy tissue about one inch in diameter, typically located about one to three inches up the front wall of the vagina. To find it, insert your finger a few inches inside your vagina, then curl it toward the belly. Once you've located it, you can reach it with an insertable vibrator, such as ICONIC RABBIT, or one with a curved head, such as FORM 6.
Your Anus – Handle with Care Much like the vagina, the skin around your anus is incredibly sensitive. Many women enjoy stimulation of the perineum and the area near the anal opening, while others enjoy anal penetration. Because the space between the vagina and rectum is very thin, penetrating the anus can sometimes also provide G-spot stimulation. Though anal sex is becoming more accepted (and popular), not everyone wants to dive right in. Try inserting a finger, vibrator or a butt plug before moving on to penile penetration. FORM 6 and the Njoy anal plug both work well for this. LITTLE CHROMA is nice and slim, but if you're going to use it for anal penetration, lace a cord through the two holes in the cap so it can be retrieved safely. Be sure that any kind of anal play involves plenty of lubrication – unlike the vagina, the anus provides no natural moisture. Never insert anything that may get stuck and never move anything (penis or otherwise) from anus to vagina – the bacteria can cause infection. Learn more about safe anal penetration in our section on types of stimulation.
Your Brain – The Most Powerful Sex Organ of All Never underestimate the power of your mind when it comes to getting off. Your thoughts, feelings and imagination can bring you to the brink of orgasm (and maybe beyond). Some women enjoy reading erotic books to jumpstart their fantasies. Check out Violet Blue's annual anthology of the Best Women's Erotica. Others like to fantasize about people they've met (or want to meet) or sexy situations they've been in (or want to be in).