The Woman's Guide to Achieving Climax The female orgasm can be an elusive little beast. Unlike the male orgasm, which is fairly straightforward (hint: penis), climax can be more complex for the ladies. However, once you've captured the female orgasm, you'll find it gets easier and easier to train and enjoy. This guide offers tips and techniques to find your best orgasm.
Different women experience orgasms in different ways. Some woman have one orgasm at a time, others have five in a row. Some women enjoy orgasms from G-spot stimulation, whereas it makes others feel like they need to pee. Of course, there are some commonalities – while some women (a minority) can reach orgasm through intercourse alone, for most, it's not that simple. Studies indicate that as many as 75% of women who have orgasms require clitoral stimulation to do so.1 One thing is certain – our sexuality is as unique to each of us as our fingerprint, so there's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to making your back arch and your toes curl.
If you have a hard time reaching orgasm, you're not alone.
33-50% of women experience orgasm infrequently and are dissatisfied with how often they reach it.2 But don't be discouraged; after learning a few common techniques and areas to explore, you can experiment and discover what's best for you.
It's not all about the destination – enjoy the journey. Orgasms are easier if you're not hell bent on having one. They're a blast, of course, but so is exploring your body and getting to know what feels good. Growing up, we learned from cartoons that “knowing is half the battle.” Jimmyjane has a different truism when it comes to orgasms – “practicing is half the fun.”
Read on to find out about the female anatomy, different types of orgasms, and how to reach them through different types of stimulation, and tips and techniques.
Note: If you think you might have a serious orgasmic disorder, for example, if you were previously able to have an orgasm and now you can't, read about anorgasmia on Cory Silverberg's sexuality site on About.com.